Twenty years ago I read my first awakening book, a Seth book, which proposed to me a view I had never considered. "You are a painter and all the people and events in it are your canvas. You are also a player on the canvas of others".
Sometimes when I have an intense emotional response to a particular behaviour or event I expand my peripheral view and send my attention far away to all the directions, and pretend that everything in my now expanded awareness is a canvas that I painted, including the things that bother me, or that I admire or envy.
I tell myself: "That thing or person or event is there because I put it there. Now what?" I pretend that all I have to do is paint over, and start by gaining as much clarity as I can on what I want to see happen. I don't always know what I want in specific terms, so I chunk it up to a generality, which could be love, or harmony, or elegant flow. I look at the essence of the bothersome event and turn it around to find the essence of that which I'd rather replace it with.
Then I use a technique from my repertoire to connect to the realm of possibility. The right action that I am to take comes to me as an insight, and sometimes that action is counterintuitive and even scary, but the right one, as if prescribed by an old, wise friend from within my mind.
When the right action becomes clear to me, and I carry it on, it is kind towards me, and also kind towards the other players on my canvas. There are no enemies to fight, no battles to win, there is just some clumsy painting here and there, and my job as a painter is to make the right amends (Tikkun).