Attraction and connection are not the same thing.
When meeting a total stranger, in person or online, and you feel a pull towards this other person, that's attraction.
If there's a common ground shared between you and the other person, a resonance that you can both feel beyond words, there is potential for connection.
Connection is possible when you reveal yourselves to each other, and witness each other in that revealing. A me turns into a we when two people get to know each other deeply and intimately through mutual disclosure and witnessing, and when in person, through touch, coordinated breath, and harmonious movement together, such as dancing and lovemaking.